WetStone Technologies & Susan Murphy Milano Announce Tool For Victims of Intimate Partner Violence & Stalking

On October 31, 2011, Technology is about to change the way victims of domestic violence and stalking will be able to document and video the abuse and potential threats against their lives. It is also a unique way, once the technology is used across the country, for abusers to think twice about making their spouse or girlfriend vanish without a trace. In her absence, if the victim has completed the process, called the "Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit"it will bring an arrest and a solid case for prosecutors.

This comes at time when the city of Topeka, Kansas just repealed the domestic violence law inthe city. Their excuse is not having the money to prosecute crimes that can and are leading to murder of victims and their children. I expect other cities to follow cost saving methods, hopefully not as drastic as Topeka, which could include writing a simple ticket rather then making an arrest.

In many of the cases resulting in murder, where the victim and or children are killed, but the former husband or boyfriend remains alive and is awaiting trial, the victims fears and testimony in these cases is important for law enforcement and prosecution. The victims words are admitted into testimony at the trial as "last will and testament" rather then as in current cases "hearsay." Another important aspect is a victims words about the offender. Who they are and how the threats against life and limb were real while the victim was still alive. Removing the offenders right as per the sixth amendment to face the person who is accusing them (because they are no longer alive) this is groundbreaking.

The technology will also be a voice for those silenced during post decree issues. As the world witnessed last week, an angry ex-husband stormed into a busy beauty salon in California killing 8 people, including his ex-wife who claimed while alive he threatened to kill her. Now, his actions and mental health will be in trial, the threats and abuse she suffered will be considered "hearsay" because she did not have the opportunity to prepare the document and video.

THE GOAL OF THE TECHNOLOGY:

To significantly reduce the number of homicides and missing persons per year by

providing cutting edge technology and vital knowledge that will first give potential

victims a fighting chance, a strong voice, provide valuable non‐reputable evidence that

will aid in any investigations, eventual conviction, overruling “hearsay” laws, in the

worst case scenarios and provide a powerful deterrent against would‐be attackers.

 To significantly reduce the costs incurred by law enforcement, the justice system and health

care services, including insurance claims, each costing taxpayers annually.

If my mama could see me now, wow! In her death, my work and this new technology is a reality. Years ago after she was murdered by my police officer father, my goal was to keep others alive, always striving to find an effective solution. I realize the importance of following your dreams, believing you can change the world!

About the Conference

Nationally recognized Intimate Partner Specialist, Susan Murphy Milano, and Chet Hosmer of

WetStone Technologies, a wholly owned subsidiary of Allen Corporation of America are

partnering to bring a newly created technology that will revolutionize the way cases of intimate partner violence are handled at every level. The technology will be unveiled nationally October 31 at the Techno‐Forensic Conference in Myrtle Beach, SC. http://www.techno‐forensics.com/ - If you are interested in covering the event or writing a story please contact

Delilah@imagine publicity.com or for more information call 843.808.0859

http://www.techno-forensics.com/session/intimate-partner-violence-growing-epidemic-how-technology-can-aid-law-enforcement-and-prosec

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Susan Murphy Milano is a staff member of the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is a specialist with intimate partner violence prevention strategies and high risk cases and available for personal consultations through the Institute. She is also part of the team at Management Resources Limited of New York.

Susan is a contributor to Forbes : Crime, She Writes a powerhouse lineup of female true crime professionals, experts and authors providing commentary about the hottest topics on crime, justice, and law from a woman’s perspective.

Susan is the author of "Time's Up: A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships,"Moving out, Moving on, and Defending Out Lives. Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" . She is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated "The Roth Show" with Dr Laurie Roth and a co-host on Crime Wire.

If you would like to schedule Susan Murphy Milano for training and interviews, please contact:ImaginePublicity PO BOX 14946 Surfside Beach, SC 29587 Phone: 843.808.0859 email- contact@imaginepublicity.com

Technology Aiding in Saving Lives of Intimate Partner Violence and Potential Missing Persons cases

Keep your Edge in Digital Forensics, Evidence Collection
and Crime Scene Documentation Myrtle Beach

October 31, 2011- November 1, 2011

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The Intimate Partner Violence a Growing Epidemic - How Technology Can Aid Law Enforcement and Prosecutors in Saving Lives of Victims

This panel will discuss the global epidemic of intimate partner violence. It will highlight and discuss the importanceof solving technical and legal issues that impead prosecution, how it complicates the protection of victims, and offer solutions. The audience will hear from a panel of experts that include law enforcement professionals, legal representatives, technologists and advocates.

Bios:

Chet Hosmer is the Chief Scientist and co-founder of WetStone, now a division of Allen Corporation. Chet has over 30 years of experience researching and developing high technology solutions. Since 1992, Chet has focused his research in Cyber Security and has served as the Principal Investigator on over 40 cyber security, digital forensic and information assurance research programs funded by AFRL, ARL, OSD, DARPA and NIJ. Chet received his BS Degree in Computer Science from Syracuse University, serves on several editorial boards, is an Adjunct Professor at Syracuse University and is a visiting professor at Utica College. Chet actively gives numerous Cyber Security relevant keynote, plenary and panel presentations each year on a global basis.

Susan Murphy Milano is a nonfiction author, violence expert—a defender of victims' rights. Susan has appeared onOprah, 20/20, American Justice, and CNN. As a nationally recognized women's advocate, she was instrumental in the passage of the Illinois Stalking Law and the Lautenberg Act. After the murder of her mother, committed by her Chicago detective father, Susan set out on a mission to keep women alive and she has successfully done that for over 20 years. The ultimate question asked by Oprah, "So Susan, women have to have a plan?" was answered a dozen years later because of working and highlighting cases of high risk intimate partner violence,and finally, realizing the solution. The Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit (EAA) contained in her book, Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships is the prescription for the epidemic of women, like Stacy Peterson, who has been missing since 2007, and presumably dead.

Holly Hughes
Attorney with the Fulton County District Attorney's office in Atlanta, GA where she prosecuted some of the most high-profile cases in the United States, including working on the murder case against Ray Lewis, superstar with the Baltimore Ravens. Holly Hughes was a triple threat prosecuting homicides, hate crimes and high profile felony cases. Prior to making a name for herself as a tough big-city prosecutor, she also worked as an attorney specializing in Discrimination and Civil Rights. Ms. Hughes has hosted the highly popular "Nancy Grace Show" on CNN Headline News Channel, and continues to appear as a frequent guest on the program. She has also appeared on Court TV as a frequent commentator and legal analyst since 2003. Additionally, she appears regularly on Tru TV's In Session and CNN HLN Prime News as well as The Levi Page Radio, The Cop Doc Radio Show and The Susan Murphy Milano show as an expert in criminal law. With over 100 media appearances Ms. Hughes has been qualified as an expert in high profile litigation and criminal procedure with the Cold Case Research Institute of Georgia. She is also a frequent guest lecturer at local colleges and law schools. She has been honored in Madison Avenue's Who's Who of Young Professionals. After 10 years with the DA's Office, Ms. Hughes is now in private practice in Atlanta, handling criminal defense and civil matters.

http://www.techno-forensics.com/session/intimate-partner-violence-growing-epidemic-how-technology-can-aid-law-enforcement-and-prosec

Dangerous Love

By Susan Murphy-Milano

At what cost to ourselves do we remain in a relationship? Likely this is not a question we ever ask ourselves. But, why not?

Could it be that in our lives we settle? Are we too embarrassed to admit when the individual we have chosen to spend our lives with is not who they were at the beginning of the relationship? The answer is yes.

The wrong kind of love includes emotional warfare. A destructive game played in a relationship when a person chips away at the very foundation of another individual. Emotional warfare is an invisible dagger to the heart. You don't see it coming when confronted. Below are some examples of :

Emotional Abuse

• Name calling: “you’re a bitch, a whore, fat, ugly, stupid, slut, trash”.
• You are constantly told that you are crazy, that you need a psychiatrist; they threaten to have you committed. They tell your children that you are crazy and make them believe that they are not safe with you. They hide personal items in an attempt to convince you or others that, “you are losing it.”
• They intentionally say things to embarrass you in front of others. They make remarks about your appearance or belittle you. They talk over you if you are engaged in conversation, or consistently contradict you in an effort to discredit you, or make you feel stupid.
• They ignore you when you have “been bad”, or do not do as you are told. They act like you are not in the room. You are made to feel that you are invisible.
• They withhold praise or affection. They make you feel that your mere presence disgusts them, that you are unattractive, and unworthy of them or anyone else.

• You are made to feel worthless, no good, and stupid. You are told you’re your opinions do not count, that you couldn’t possibly have anything to say that anyone would want to hear.
• You are made to feel that your past has no value; your childhood memories, your holiday traditions, your faith, and even your family. Regardless of your education, or your past experiences, your prior existence means nothing to them, and even the mention of it can illicit negative consequences.
• They accuse you of having affairs, lying, or conspiring against them.

Just because you are not physically hurt in your relationship does not mean you are free and clear. Emotional abuse can and does lead to intimate partner homicide. In many of the recent cases where women have gone missing and have yet to be found, they were never hit or beaten with fists. Instead, words, the same as you see above were their abusers weapons. When that no longer worked they went from words to action, silencing women and the mothers of their own children, forever.

You cannot fix or rescue these individuals. They are toxic and dangerous to any relationship.

Before you consider filing for a divorce or moving out, you better have a plan. He (the abuser) has one if you leave. And the last time I checked designer body bags were not considered a fashion statement.

Time's Up!

[Susan Murphy Milano is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is an expert on intimate partner violence and homicide crimes. For more information visithttp://www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com/ She is the author of "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships," available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and wherever books are sold.

She is also part of the team at Management Resources Limited of New York.

Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" on Here Women Talkhttp://www.herewomentalk.com/ and is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated The Roth Show with Dr. Laurie Roth http://www.therothshow.com/

Intimate Partner Violence: The Sweet and Unassuming Perpetrators

Profile of an Abuser

The abuser can be a male or female. The abuser can be sweet, handsome and unassuming to everyone, but you.

An abuser knows exactly how to manipulate all types of situations.

An abuser is the most generous and helpful person to the neighbor, your family, and friends. If you tell anyone you are being abused it is not likely you will be believed. When you are or were dating you thought it was “special” that this person was jealous of anyone who approached. Thinking how lucky you were until you moved in with them or married and the jealously turned into anger and rage, chances are you love this guy with all your heart and yet they still accuse you of having “secret affairs” or relationships with everyone else but, them.

The abuser is very insecure.

The abuser constantly questions your loyalty to them, the children and having a future together.

Profile of Abuser Continued

The abuser is clever at showing sincere intentions, but often has other motives

The abuser hurts or destroys family pets.

Jekyll and Hyde personality, they can be sweet one day and angry and violent the next.

The abuser is clever at showing sincere intentions, but often has other motives.

If you are pregnant, the abuser can become upset with you and angry and may attempt to make you miscarry. Once the child is born you may not be allowed to run and comfort your baby. An abuser expects the same attention and or sexual intimacy prior to the pregnancy.

An abuser may be unusually rough or use measures of discipline far too extreme on your child.

An abuser does not have the ability to love another person, is very critical of others.

An abuser blames you for everything that goes wrong in their lives; their job, outside pressures, whatever it is, you are blamed. Regardless of the situation; it is always your fault.

An abuser denies hurting you, almost acting like it never even happened.

The abuser will make excuses for why they become angry or physically violent.

The abuser blames their drug and alcohol abuse on you or their parents.

The abuser believes in maintaining control over every aspect of their lives to the point of obsession, including monitoring activities of you and or the children.

The Teeter Totter Abuser – remember when you were a child playing at the park? An Abuser rises you up and brings you down the same way as a teeter totter. One day they are driving you out of their lives saying things like “I have had it”, you are “worthless”

“I am leaving” to this is all “your fault” and beating you to “make you behave”. The next they are rising you up high by apologizing, sending you flowers, a card. They may actually cry or beg you not to leave them. They say things like: "I am sorry"; “It will never happen again"; “Don't you understand how much I love you?" They bring you gifts, or suggest a romantic weekend away. Suddenly they act as if they worship the ground you walk on. And acting as if they worship the very ground you walk.

Tarzan Abuser- their attitude and behavior is no different than “Me, Tarzan” (as they beat their chest) meaning they are superior to you, they are the “provider.” To “You, Jane” follow my lead, do as I say, be their slave, wait on their every desire, you are the invisible less important person in the relationship.

An abuser has an important career in the public, people depend on them for answers, and the abusive person brings this attitude home with them.

I cannot stress enough, if you are in a relationship that has a history of violence, simply mustering up the courage to confront the person and say it is over, without the proper tools, can cost you, your life!

One of the major reasons women stay in abusive relationships is fear. They are afraid of what will happen to them and their children if they leave. Sadly, their fears are often justified; statistics show that a woman is at the greatest risk for injury when she announces her plans or leaves an abusive relationship.

The book "Time's Up A Guide on How To Survive and Abusive and Stalking Relationship" is the prescription, if you will, that every person must obtain before they announce they are leaving. Below is an example from Chapter 4, one of many unique tools provided in the book. It is available onAmazon.com, or you can purchase via e-book or on a cd. If you have questions, the email address is: timesupforjustice@gmail.com

Before you decide that you have had enough and are ending the relationship create for yourself the "Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit" and video (shown below).

If you do nothing else, please take one important step that if something does happen to you, if you do vanish like Stacy Peterson, Vensus Stewart, Rachel Anderson, Susan Powell, Lisa Stebic, or arefound murdered like Monica Beresford-Redmond, Franki Jacobson, Renee Pagel, Summer Inman, Kelly Rothwell and others where the person responsible has gotten away with murder that your voice and record of the abuse will be captured and recorded. Do it for you friends, family and loved ones. Do it for your children. Do it for you!

Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit by Susan Murphy Milano from the Book "Time's Up" from Courage Network on Vimeo.

If you have questions, the email address is: timesupforjustice@gmail.com

This book doesn't merely discuss when you should leave or why you should leave, it tells you HOW you should leave. The book has step-by-step instructions how to covertly make a plan, set-up a safe escape, deal with financial issues, and the paperwork. Susan even takes you line-by-line through the process, the forms, the legal issues...she takes you by the hand, and, believe me, when you are being terrorized and you are an basket case, you don't need vague ideas, you need specific instructions. TIME'S UPcan save your life and your sanity. If you need to get out, get this book before you make a mistake that could be fatal. It is money well spent.

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Susan Murphy Milano is a staff member of the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is a specialist with intimate partner violence prevention strategies and high risk cases and available for personal consultations through the Institute. She is also part of the team at Management Resources Limited of New York.

Susan is the author of "Time's Up: A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships,"Moving out, Moving on, and Defending Out Lives. Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" . She is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated "The Roth Show" with Dr Laurie Roth and a co-host on Crime Wire.

If you would like to schedule Susan Murphy Milano for training and interviews, please contact:ImaginePublicity PO BOX 14946 Surfside Beach, SC 29587 Phone: 843.808.0859 email- contact@imaginepublicity.com